Are you tired of the disrespect you experience in your everyday life?

How would your life be different if everyone you met respected you?

Disrespect is a pervasive issue in our time. So much so that if you examine your life and your relationships, you will find that most of your stress, worry, chaos, angst and interpersonal turmoil is due to disrespect from others.

To prove the point, think of the greatest stressors in your life. How many of them are due to disrespect foisted on you by other people in your life?

So, how do we get rid of the disrespect in our lives?

1. Stop being disrespectful. Much of our pain and stress we bring on ourselves because of our own disrespect toward others

2. Treat people the way you want to be treated. If you enjoy arrogance, selfishness, pompous attitudes and rudeness, then by all mean, treat others that way. However, if you are normal, treat people with the humility, grace, kindness and respect that you enjoy from others.

3. Move away from disrespectful people. If someone insists on treating you with disrespect, find someone else to hang out with. You may need to find another job, find a new church, or kick a disrespectful kid out of the house.

4. Move toward respectful people. Find places where respectful people gather and be bold about meeting them. Life is wonderful when you are surrounded by gracious people.

5. Give to others. Give your time, effort and energy to help others people because the act of giving opens the hearts and minds of others to you, your ideas, your wants and needs.

6. Open your heart and mind. Learn, grow, and become something more than you are today. Gain skills, experience, knowledge and wisdom so that you will have something to offer to others.

6. Develop a good attitude. Reject cynicism, anger, grudges, revenge and being offended at every little rude act by others.

7. Humble yourself. Yield and defer to others. Esteem others and yield to their knowledge, experience, wisdom, needs, wants, wishes, and value as a human being.

Number 7 is the hardest one for many people. But the reality is that humbling yourself and yielding to others is how you show respect in the first place.

Think about it. Would you rather be surrounded by arrogant, mouthy, rude, cynical, disrespectful mean people or would you rather associate with people who are kind, respectful, considerate, humble and willing to help you?

Simply act the way you like others to act and you will find yourself surrounded with the kind of people you enjoy. Be arrogant and mouthy and you will have to put up with people just like yourself.

Posted by Tim Austin

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